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i think i'm abusive... [Mar. 23rd, 2004|09:43 am]
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tornattheelbo
[My kid dictates my mood and right now it's... |upset]

uh, hi.

I don't know what else to add to that... I feel evil and not very good about myself. I shoved my kid this morning. It's not even 10 and he was pushing me to the limit, and i snapped.

I kept trying to give myself space from him, but i guess he was excited since it's morning and he hasn't seen me all night, or ... i don't know. How can i even justify this? I can't... but i'm thinking that maybe i need help.

I feel like i lose it way too easily with him, and shit... he is 3. He is going to remember this shit and it is going to scar him for the rest of his life and i feel fucking awful, like i don't deserve the title of mother because i am the shittiest fucking mother there is.

fuck.
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(no subject) [Feb. 18th, 2004|11:14 pm]
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katttg
So, I'm in the middle of moving- again. For the second time in two weeks (first to my parents house, and now to my new apartment in Minnesota).
I understand it's hard on kids, especially pre-talking, to move a lot, to have your surroundings changing, but my kid is out of control.
She's been having temper tantrums like I've never seen. She slams her head into me, my face, my chest, kicks me, hits me, and if she can't hit me (if I walk away, or she's in the car seat), she hits herself, over and over. And screams, this primal scream that i can't even begin to deal with.
I don't even know how to handle it. I go from trying to breath deeply and hold her, to almost throwing her against a wall (I didn't, I just picked her up and then set her down again).
Everything is a struggle- getting up in the morning, putting on cloths, getting her to eat, god forbid GOING anywhere and I dread nap time/bed time.
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on potty training....... [Feb. 16th, 2004|10:31 pm]
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moemoebean
"We really need to be working on his potty training right now" .....or

"He's in for a world full of hurt if he is still in diapers in a few more months."

These people who feel they are all too qualified to make these assertions even though, they aren't here with me doing what "needs to be done".

Yes, because, I am "avoiding" potty training my son. sure.
when I have bought him 4 different potties, two different toilet seats to put on the adult toilet, countless bags of pull-ups, little boy underpants, and have cleaned up his urine when he wets his pants time and time again, read him books on potty training, given him fun smiley face charts, sung him songs about pee, all because I am avoiding potty training him?

"the anthem of the ignorant" as someone brilliant once referred to something as, is song by many different choirs, about many different subjects, all over the world, a million and one times a day. And, if you ask me, none of those choirs know shit.
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(no subject) [Feb. 11th, 2004|04:29 pm]
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ivyblogs
[My kid dictates my mood and right now it's... |aggravatedaggravated]

I have a question for those of you with AD/HD kids. Does you child complain all the time about everything? I mean- when they're not talking your ear off about one subject day in and day out without taking a breath or letting you speak- and loudly. And when they're not so happy about something that they're jumping around and knocking things over or so mad about something that they're jumping around knocking things over or when they're not nagging you for something they must have or you must do for them. When they're not doing that stuff, are they complaining about everything else?
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(no subject) [Jan. 1st, 2004|09:37 am]
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katttg
I think that Oe has an ear infection. And I have no money or health insurance. Fuck.
Last night, she woke up in the middle of the night screaming so hard that I thought she was going to have a hernia. After an hour of trying to calm her down, with little success, I brought her out into the living room for my roommate to watch, so I could go smoke.
The crying still didn't stop. Vid had to actually HOLd her hands behind her back, so she would stop hitting her face and head. She was so out of control. She has scratches down her cheecks from her nails scraping them.
I finally dosed her up on tylonal and cough syrup, but I gave her to much cough syrup- on purpose- with the theory that it would put her to sleep.
An hour and a half, it did.
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(no subject) [Dec. 19th, 2003|08:43 am]
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katttg
I just woke up, after a whole night of Zoe screaming at me every time I rolled over, to Zoe kicking me REALLY hard in the stomach and then melting down into a temper tantrum when I yelled at her.
She's now screaming because I won't let her push buttons on the computer. I havn't had any coffee even yet.
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(no subject) [Dec. 16th, 2003|05:25 pm]
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gurlmom
just a reminder to y'all to add the community to your friends list so that you can see the new posts.
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a quick intro before work [Dec. 16th, 2003|11:34 am]
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viggie
i am a 24yo single mama to a 5yo boy that i co-parent with his dad. he has him 3 nights a week and i have him the rest. he is a very sweet sweet boy but he is also hell on wheels a whole lot of the time. he is the kid that disrupts everybody in class, can't work in groups and has to sit in a chair as opposed to on the floor in circle time. saturday i was seriously considering just leaving him at the grocery store. any time i tried to talk to him about his behavior he basically laughed. he reached that point of no return where he was so wound up it would have to end badly. all i can do anymore is send him to the bedroom and ignore him. half the time he goes in there for awhile, gets distracted by something and calms down, the other half of the time he is screaming that he hates me, he loves daddy better, etc. last weekend he threatened to run away for the first time.

thank you thank you thank you alli for starting this!!!
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(no subject) [Dec. 15th, 2003|12:13 pm]
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gurlmom
ok mamas. let's use this space! Let this be the space we come to when we want to post in lj or wherever it is we go to talk to other mamas, and we find ourselves deleting, hesitating, re-wording, changing the story. This can be the space where we come when we are crying or freaking out and thinking "what is wrong with me? what is wrong with the kid? Can i do this? what was i thinking? what the hell am i supposed to do? why am i such a freak? why is the kid such a freak? why am i so alone? why cant i be a good mom? why cant i have a normal kid? if i told anyone this they would hate me." This is where we come when we are thinking that abandonment is a valid option and, really, they'd be better off without us. This is where we come to tell the truth, to be supported, and to maybe realize we arent such big freaks and we arent quite so alone and maybe someday the kids WILL be alright.

first order of business...
check out the user pics...what should be default? linda blair or screaming kids on bikes?
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(no subject) [Dec. 15th, 2003|11:21 am]
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gurlmom
can y'all see this? the words dont show up for me unless i highlight them!
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